How I would like to be remembered

I have no interest in people who do not know me remembering me when I die. I do however want my loved ones to remember me. I want to be remembered for who I am not what others wanted me to be. I know I only have one life to live and that is why I do my best to be a sweet, understanding and loving daughter, mother, sister and friend. I am not perfect, I continually make mistakes that I want to be forgiven not forgotten. Often times when one passes the people who are left behind try to only remember what they liked or loved about the person. Sometimes they even create false memories about the one who is gone purely out of grief or even guilt. Know one wants to think badly about someone who is no longer living and they shouldn't without good reasons. However you must remember everything about the person or else your memories become false. I don't want that, I want to truly and honestly be remembered for who I was.